Critique Groups: The Good, the Bad and the Ugly Part 2

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In my last blog entry, I talked about my good experiences with critique groups.
What do I consider a good critique group. One which
- Encourages
- Teaches
- Helps
- Generous
- Strives to do better (whatever that is)
I found all these things on my first try. What would happen on my next venture away from this kind group of Christian writers?
Well.
I submitted a chapter to another group and will not say which one for reasons you will see. I asked for a critique and got one back that took my breath away. It was harsh and there was plenty of it. After going back to my original group for moral support, which I received, I looked carefully at the comments.
They were right on and very helpful. I will call this the bad, even though it didn't turn out that way. I wound up staying with this group and have gotten equally harsh comments. However, I know the person. I can take what they give out because in the end it works. And it helps. Even though I am quite sure this person hates what I write (high fantasy, elves, dwarves, etc).
Which brings us to ugly.
Ugly critiques are
- Sarcastic
- Self serving (look how much better I am than you)
- Mean spirited (a put down rather than an actual critique)
I have only received a couple of these, thank God. But they hurt and they were given to me by other Christians. One sarcastic comment was "Oh, come on. What is this?" Unnecessary.
I wish that I could say that I was thick skinned and took it on the chin. I took it to heart and almost stopped writing altogether. I was humiliated. I quit a bunch of groups and bided my time, waiting for a good moment to quit all my groups altogether.
But God intervened. Wouldn't you know, about 2 weeks after this horrible critique I published a little article. One that a person had cut up in ribbons.
So what's the point?
My point is, Critique groups can be good, bad and ugly. Just remember:
- Be polite, even if people are not polite to you. (The Golden Rule--hello)
- Use the Sandwich method. Always. Period
- Put on some thick skin. My tolerance for criticism may higher than yours. Maybe. It's possible.
- Even if the critique is bad or harsh, take a deep breath. Or a day or two. Come back to it and learn.
- When (not if) you get an ugly critique, take it for what it's worth. Take what you can use and ignore the rest. If you cannot ignore the rest, then you cannot use it. Pitch it and MOVE ON.
- If you don't like sarcasm, don't use it yourself. (Again with the golden rule)
Then, my friend, get back up and get writing.
Here's a list of my good, bad and ugly critique groups for Speculative Fiction (you will note that these are Christian groups):
Christian Fiction WRE Crit Group
Christian Corner of Writers
Christian Science Fiction/Fantasy Writers Assoc.
Christian Women of Fantasy/Romance/Mystery
FrogsnEagles
Genre Christian Writers
Writers for the King